Miss Piggy, I relate to your pain about the Mother wound. Like you it was hard to listen to Mrs Mugambi’s apology on behalf of mothers who have hurt their children. I am a first born gal and growing up, Mum terrorised me. She was a perfectionist and even though I excelled in school often topping my class it was never good enough and always found something to critique. I was often punished for my siblings misdemeanours and by the time I was a teenager hated kids till my mid-thirties. Till today, my Mum has a shopping list of expectations and no matter what you give her she never says thank you. My Mum does not believe in complementing any good deed or expressing love.
Yet, despite all the pain my Mum has caused me, I am glad to report I have forgiven her. Going through Ombi last year, I realized the Devil likes to keep us in chains by the things we hold on to. Bitterness and unforgiveness were my thorns in the flesh and I finally surrendered them to the Lord at the cross. I AM FREE!!! I am learning to love myself and others and unlearn bad habits that I had formed as coping mechanisms (manipulation, independent streak, withholding love).
Do you realize by refusing to forgive her you pick up some of the bad habits that have made her hurt you and continue the cycle? Stop the cycle of bondage in your family. Please consider forgiving your Mum, it will benefit u first. As Pastor S. says some women hurt others because they were wounded and don’t know how to break the chains that keep them in Bondage.
I have not yet won the race, but I am learning to Honour my Mum in spite of herself, as it is the Lord’s command. She’s a Christian and my prayer is that the Holy Spirit would cause her to realise the pain that she has wrought on my siblings and I.