I do not blog about my personal life. For me there has always been a line I will not cross. I do not blog about my family, my relationships, I mention my workplace only in the most general of terms and I even find it hard to blog about my previous schools. Many of you have advised me not to write this post, thank you for your concern but I feel I need to write this. This may also be seen by some as a classic example of closing the door once the horse has bolted. It may be too little to late, the damage is all ready done. However I still need to write this. Over the last two months there have been series of attacks and allegations made about me to which I can only respond to in a personal capacity. So I am breaking my own rules here. That is how seriously I was taking this. Hopefully I will only have to deal with this once in public on this blog.
The first sets of attacks were based around the ridiculous idea that I had rigged the Kaybees and had a “list of winners” before voting even took place. The person who was making these allegations went from blog to blog leaving comments full of slurs against my character and my integrity. In some places they painted me a megalomaniac in others I was an agent of the Kenyan government; in others I was an agent of the Kenyan opposition. It quickly became obvious to many people that this person was lying and had a silly vendetta which was know only to him. He would leave comments and later delete them. He would put up posts on his blog and delete them. He would make accusations and then retract them before restating them yet again. He announced to the world he would stop blogging and a couple of days later returned. Many of you came to correct conclusion that he was a mischief maker and came to my defence and I am grateful for that.
The next set of allegations is harder to deal with. In fact when I read the allegations I was shocked like many of you were. I wanted to get to the bottom of it. I was one of the first people to leave a comment on the blog and I attempted to contact the blogger to find out what was going on. It was only later on the following afternoon that they informed me that the allegation was being made at me. It is hard to describe what I felt at that time. It was a mixture of disbelief and shock which was slowly turning to anger.
The very idea that someone who I have never met, who I do not interact with as much as I do with other bloggers, a blogger whose name I do not even know, could come out and say this almost knocked me off my feet.
When I call my family it takes a couple of sentences before they are sure they are talking to me, and yet she thinks that in 2 or 3 words she can be sure it was me on the other end of the line because “SHE KNOWS MY VOICE”? You do not know me. It really is as simple as that. As for the other allegations including calling her at work, every company I have worked for have a system of monitoring incoming calls, I would feel that her company have a similar system I would suggest that she contacts her manager at work and tell them that she is being harassed on company phones. They will have to investigate it and you will be informed of the number that called you.
I can not prove what I have not done. What I can show is the limited interaction between the blogger who is making these allegations and myself using the medium I use to interact with all of you, my blog. As recently as two weeks ago this blogger was leaving positive and warm comments on my blog. I have produced a series of links going back to the beginning of the year. Each of these posts has a warm and positive comment from the blogger making these allegations. I urge you to click on those links and read the comments. Then ask yourselves these questions:
- If I was harassing her why did she visit my blog?
- If I was harassing her, why did she leave comments on my blog?
- If I was harassing her, why did she leave positive comments on blog?
Here are the posts:
- First post
- Second post
- Third post
- Fourth post
- Fifth post
- Sixth post
- Seventh post
- Eighth post
- Ninth post
Perhaps now you can start to understand why I was shocked by her allegations. I have never received an email from the blogger making these allegations. Why did she not email me to tell me to stop bothering her? In fact there has been next to no communication between us at all. Yet she claims it has been me who has been harassing her because “SHE KNOWS MY VOICE”.
I should point out that once I got over the shock of her accusations I suggested to her that she repeat the allegations with some details to someone we both trust, she declined. I suggested she email me her proof, she declined. I suggested she email me exactly what she was accusing me of, she declined. I asked her if there was anyone she trusted who she could tell the allegations who would then be able to tell me, she declined. I asked her to explain to me what was going on, she declined. In a bizarre twist I am the one running around looking for the evidence that could be used to hang me. Well not anymore.
Well there you have it. To all the people who have emailed me and called me to offer their support thank you from the bottom of my heart. To my friends who were honest and direct with me, thank you. I know I drove some of you crazy, well this whole thing was driving me crazy as well. It is these unexpected crises that allow true friends to show their true colours. Thank you again. Thank you especially to the person who stayed up to talk to me last night; you are very special to me, one of a kind.
Well there it is my response to the allegations. I will not be drawn into a game of attack and counter attack. This is it from me for now. Now back to regular programming.










16 comments
May 3, 2006 at 3:14 pm
Mocha!
Mental,
Leave these hindiots alone. You endelea with what you are doing. I think your podcasts have driven peeps to go psycho on your a$$ coz they cant have you. Si walishindwa kutoa evidence? Even hollywood stars have psychopaths hot on their heels. Si wewe wa kwanza. So, like you have done hapa, take it in your stride….you have cleared the air.
Like I always say, keep up with the good work. I am looking forward to next years Kaybees.
The ‘Licious!
May 3, 2006 at 4:15 pm
helen
Mental,
Your integrity in this post is remarkable, really.
I mean you did not have to address this on your blog especially since the “allegations” are either fabricated, misinformed, or a result of utter miscommunication. But you did. I am sympathetic to the girl and hope that she finds her perpetrator soon because I don’t think for a minute that this is you. You should be commended.
The current generation of African leaders, noted as the esteemed ushers of the so-called ‘African Renaissance’, could learn a lesson about accountability from you. About responding to accusations whether or not one is guilty. You are thinking about your dedicated readers here and your selfless and non-patronizing acknowledgement (i.e. you didn’t link to the person’s site nor reveal their identity -you just let the facts of her continued engagement with you speak for themselves), is at once courageous and respectful.
Being RESPECTFUL to those who’ve attacked you ad hominem, based on nothing more than circumstantial evidence retrieved over the patch-work facts of the internet and pod-casts (?!?!?)…well in my eyes, that’s the true marker of a Class Act African man!
keep blogging along my friend and as samantha jones said in ’sex and the city’ - “all publicity is good publicity”.
May 3, 2006 at 5:13 pm
Stunuh
What podcasts… what did I miss… HELLO can someone get me a clue?
May 3, 2006 at 5:49 pm
kabinti
together with stunuh iz hau i never heard about the podcasts?
pole sana for the trauma lala salama with a clean roho knowing that you are innocent na wenye wivu wajinyonge!
May 3, 2006 at 5:50 pm
Magaidi
Mental,
This is actually news to me. I like the way you’ve dealt with it though. You could just have as easily descended to mud-slinging and with good reason but you didn’t. There’s something to be said about that and due diligence, and if all the accuser has to go by are assumptions based on podcasts, then this is one sad story. You didn’t have to defend yourself but you did. The burden of proof shouldn’t be on you. I hope the accuser contacts someone at KBW Admin to resolve this coz there might be someone out there doing the real damage.
May 3, 2006 at 6:23 pm
Prou
I am floating too, someone help me sink and fill me in?
Who was calling who where and why?
I am really sorry, mental, for that kind of mudslinging and I hope the accuser if she has a conscience should apologize.
May 3, 2006 at 7:14 pm
Mitzy
Pole sana. Keep blogging and don’t let those trying to tarnish your name and muffle your talent get to you. Your intergrity has come through in letting your audience in on what’s been going on. Each of your posts is informative in a different way, so bring it on. We want to hear from you!!
May 3, 2006 at 11:51 pm
W.M
I’m so glad I am not the only one who is floating and having the feeling of things going over their heads. All I have to say is that D., you are one of the best and most provocative, mind-sparking writers I know, that I am in awe of your technological prowess, and that meeting you is going to be a birthday present to myself one of these days. There is NOT a doubt in my mind about your integrity, your honesty, your creativity and your brilliance (actually I’ve said this before, on other blogs, so I begin to sound like a stuck record.) Whatever you need, bro; I’ll probably have it for you. And if I don’t have it, I can get it for you. I respect determination, and lyricism and intelligence. I respect and admire YOU. So, I guess, that’s my vote, although I don’t know what the opposition is. What the f—k are we talking about?
May 4, 2006 at 4:42 am
Ms K
Hey you,
As one of those friends who drove you nutters, let me just say your integrity was never in question for me.
At the end of the day, we is all grown folks. Kudos for responding in such an adult and open way.
I hope this can all be put behind us, especially for you and the other person at the centre of this.
May 4, 2006 at 6:16 am
Soul
the heck is going on in blogosphere?
May 4, 2006 at 9:16 am
sokari
Mental - I do not know you or even visit your blog that often but the little I have read and heard from other Kenyans leaves me in no doubt as to your integrity. One thing I figured about blog gangstas (that wonderful term she coined) is that if you are challenging, creative and speak loud enough they will try to silence you one way or the other. Keep blogging and continue doing the things you have been doing for the K blogosphere.
May 4, 2006 at 12:26 pm
Shiroh
Dunno me thinks this is all so well cooked up. But knowing you and having interacted quite some times I think the allegations are totally ridiculous.
Dont think you are the kind that would fuatilia or stalk. I mean how many times do you talk to chics. Or you would have to explain why Her?
May 4, 2006 at 12:39 pm
joe
Since in your defence you have choosen to drag me again into your drama i will only say it seems the chickens are comming home to roost. This easter i choose to walk away from controversy between you and myself with a clean heart but it seems you stil insist on dragging me into your mire.so once again i say let bygones be bygone i have walked away hoping that any beef between you and myself was a misunderstanding or the work of another party aimmed at creating conflict. so Mr Mental Please cease and desist from referring in any way or form to myself and or my blog. Sort out any issues you have with your members without alluding or dragging my name into the said issues.
Best of luck
PS. jUST INCASE YOU REMOVE MY POST I HOPE THE MESSAGE IS CLEAR .
May 4, 2006 at 9:18 pm
Mentalacrobatics
Thank you all for your messages of support. I am greatly touched. I am grateful to you for sticking your necks out for me and for doing it in public.
@ Joe I did not mention your name or your blog in this post. In fact I have NEVER mentioned your name or your blog on my blog. Why do you think I was referring to you? A friend of mine just shared a phrase with me, “the guilty are afraid”.
May 4, 2006 at 10:08 pm
Uaridi
Weingo - pole for the stress. Personally, I think the whole thing is an attention getting ploy. Know that your true friends have no doubts about you, or your integrity.
May 5, 2006 at 2:35 pm
Wangu
Pole sana. Hope this whole thing pans out soon enough.
In the meantime, keep your head up … the sun always shines after the rain.